By Brianna Austin
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By Brianna Austin
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 uddha
wrote that nothing is for certain and everything is subject to change.
Well, actually I wrote that, but it was his concept. Lately I have been engaged in a discussion with a reader regarding sex and
gender perception. The common statement is that GENDER IDENTIFICATION and
GENDER ORIENTATION are two entirely different things. Yet almost every
cross dresser I have spoken with has some sexual element which overlaps
with their dressing at some point in their life.I had always referred to a friend of mine, who only engages in relations with men while in “girl mode”, as bisexual. To me if a tranny lies down with a man, she is at the very least bisexual. Maybe not necessarily the first time, but certainly by the second. After all you don’t need to try something twice if you didn’t enjoy it the first time, right? Of course a big question would be whether she was with the guy because she was attracted to him, or whether she liked being with guys to validate herself as A GIRL. Some girls don’t really like men, but they love being treated as a girl by a man. The initial discussion recently related more towards transsexuals, but could be extended into the realm of cross dressers. When determining whether gender is physical or mental, I would personally lean towards the position of the writer who suggested that it is mental. Mental gender identification supercedes physical gender. A true M>F transsexual is truly a female in mind & spirit, their very essence being that of a woman. The body was just a slip up in the parts department. Some people would argue, as they did in the Kansas Supreme Court – if you are born a genetic male, even a post-op transsexual is still a male under Kansas law. Wake up people it’s the 21st century O.K. Speaking for myself, I have never viewed my actions, perceptions, experiences or identification by the persona of male or female I was portraying at a given point in time. Rather, I have always viewed myself as a guy in a dress. Don’t get me wrong, I love being a girl in the way I dress, act, move and feel. But I never separated the same actions as having different meanings based on my manner of dress. My friend however, says, “I am straight! When I was with that guy I was a girl”. I always thought such logic was delusional. Now I am not so sure, I am trying to see the other point of view. It is interesting to me that I am not as comfortable being feminine if I am dressed ultra butch. I don’t have to be dressed as a girl, but I do tend to dress more androgynous when acting feminine. But regardless of how I dress, I am still me. Could a person really have two sides that are divided to such an extent that they are classified separately? Could the male side be straight and date woman while the girl side is also straight dating a man? I never thought so but now it has me wondering. In the film “Different For Girls” a young man undergoes a sex change and reunites with a high school friend 16 years later. After diner she leans in to kiss him goodnight and he recoils saying, “I am straight”. Looking dead in his eyes she replies, “so am I”. In the case of transsexuals it would seem logical to suggest that a M>F is not gay for dating men, she is in fact a heterosexual woman. And if after surgery pursued woman she would then be gay. However, does this apply to a cross dresser? Lets suppose for this argument that the cross dresser shares a duel gender I.D. They like being a man in “guy mode” and love being a girl in “girl mode”. Can their sexual orientation be segmented, or is the “girl mode” simply necessary to mask the persons homosexual or bisexual tendency? Is it possible that the cross dresser is homosexual or bi-sexual and simply can’t face up to it? “I am with men as a girl and therefore straight, and with girls as a guy and at that time also straight”. Is this plausible? Or is it self-denial? As
always, be happy, be safe, and think pretty.
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