By Brianna Austin
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By Brianna Austin
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 man
who dresses as a woman, whether often or occasionally, and has a woman as
a wife or girlfriend should tell her. If you love someone you should
always be honest.Too many times the CD or TV is embarrassed to acknowledge the truth with the female they love. They justify NOT telling them with such thoughts as "what's the harm I only do it once in a while". Or "it would hurt her so I am protecting her". The difference is that it is part of who you are, at least at this point in your life. And if she is to be a part of your life it is cruel, unfair and dishonest not to tell her. It is no different than outright lying to her, manipulation in the truest sense. I know because I did it and it caused her harm. I am not preaching, I am just sharing my own experiences. You can not, and should not "protect" her. Because it is not her you are really protecting, it is yourself - but at her expense. Ultimately from every account I have ever heard they always find out or in the end you will tell them anyway. So do it in the beginning so that "if" you are going to have a relationship it begins with honesty and grows in truth. Otherwise when she does find out it shatters everything she thought you were, and everything she thought you had together. She will feell bewildered and betrayed. You will have tricked her into a false understanding, and how could she ever really trust you again? And what is a relationship without trust? As CD's or TV's the existence of our "femme" self has survived by deception and manipulation. Little white lies that protect us. Some of us get really good at it and lose sight of the habits of deception we are developing. We have been hiding for so long we forget how to really trust and thus live in isolated protection. We don't mean any harm, but we do cause harm at times with those we love and those who love us. We can not control our situation, we can simply tell her the truth with love and honesty. She has a right to feel however she feels about it, and we can not control that. If she accepts you anyway, then with her you have a real relationship, if not, you never will. I wrote a song many years ago who lyrics seem to fit here: Everyone of us has known sadness Everyone of us has known what it is to cry Always chasing love, never knowing quite why Know why you seek love from the beginning. Ask yourself why you are looking for a relationship with this woman. Make sure that it is for who she is, and not just to validate what you need. Sometimes honesty can be hard. And if you really love someone that you think you will hurt, it can be that much harder. But allow them the right to feel as they do, because in the end everything happens just the way it is supposed to. As
always, be happy, be safe, and think pretty.
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If You Love Her