So you’ve met this seemingly nice guy online and now he wants to meet?

When young girls discover boys, their parents are ever vigilant to protect their girls because they know that “boys have a one-tracked mind.”

I hate to break the news ladies, but those same sex-hungry boys grew into sex-hungry men.

A friend of mine – who invited a guy she met on the internet to her home – told me, “I felt so used and dirty afterwards.” She went on to explain to me that he came over, she got him a drink, and then as they chatted  and she was trying to get to know him, he suddenly asked, “would you mind if I masturbated?”

She was so shaken that her silence was interpreted as a YES, and he proceeded to do so, finished up, cleaned off, and left, leaving her to sit there and wonder "what the hell just happened?"

So while you may be looking to broaden your horizons by “dating,” not all seemingly nice men you meet have the same agenda as you.

That does not  however mean that there aren’t some nice guys out there too. I'm a die-hard romantic, so I have to believe that they are.

It just means  that you have to be careful and be prepared in case they’re not.  So, here is my simple tips for that first date:

1.   Don’t have him come to your apartment: you don’t know him yet, and if you don’t like him, or worse, he turns out to be a pervert, kook, or just not your cup of tea, its better that he doesn’t know where you live. 

2.   Invite him to meet you at a place you know, in a neighborhood you know, with people there that you know. Moreover, tell him you’re going out with some friends and it would be great if he could stop by and meet up with you. This way it’s casual, not a formal date; you’re not obligated to stay with him during the night if the chemistry is not there; you have friends around to help evaluate this guy; you have friends to help protect you if need be; and if it does not work out – or worse, he doesn’t show -- you can still enjoy your evening out with your friends.  

3.    Don’t take him home the first night: see #1 for details.

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