When senator Sam Brownback of Kansas says "We're not going to stop until marriage between a man and a woman is protected," I can't help but wonder what the hell he is talking about. How is it unprotected? Does a same sex marriage undo a straight marriage?
The rhetoric has gone back and forth on the same sex marriage debate for several years now, and I still don't get it. Marriage is nothing more than two people saying I do to a series of commitments that they want to make to one another. Some make that commitment in the presence of God -- through whatever faith they believe in -- and others forgo religious presence and simply have it witnessed and sanctioned by the state.
The reality is that people can make a commitment to each other without approval of the church or the state, and have done so for centuries. The real argument is simple: Does America provide equality to all of its citizenry equally?
We as Americans need to grasp the concept that we are a country of diverse people, cultures, races, and religions. As such, whatever discussion that is on the table has to be addressed from multiple angles. Take the situation and reverse it, pretend you're in the minority as a straight couple. You pay your taxes, you're home owners, you go to work every day, you're good neighbors, you give back to your community, BUT, you're not allowed to have a formal recognition of being a couple with your lover, AND, you're penalized financially for it. Is that America? The problem we suffer is age old: they're are some people that believe they have a monopoly on the truth and they alone get to decide what it right and wrong.
While some Americans are uneasy with the same sex marriage concept, this argument is not as much about gay rights as it is about a free society. If we allow the state to determine something as personal as who we can love (between consenting adults) it will ripple into so many others areas of people's personal lives that the thought is scary, and when that ripple does hit home opponents of same sex marriage will regret their stance.